Monday, November 8, 2010

Here we go again!

Hope you have a strong stomach, because adoption is a rollercoaster!! I'm excited, and scared, and nervous, and happy, and relieved to be writing this post again: A baby boy coming in March!! The superstitious part of me has been postponing this moment for as long as I can, but I'm about the point where I'm going to burst if I don't tell someone. You're all going to shoot me when I tell you that we've actually known since August, but I know you'll forgive us considering the fiasco that was last April.

First of all, let me tell you that we are working with a wonderful birthmother. Her name is Kelli, and out of respect for her privacy, we won't be sharing much more than that. Her story is tough and intensely personal, and if the situation were reversed, I wouldn't want my struggles spoken about so casually. Kelli is the 6th birthmother that we've worked with, and from the moment she contacted us (the day after my birthday!) we knew that she was different from the others. It just seemed more comfortable and natural than all the others. We have an easy relationship, and are in contact almost every day.

Perhaps the most exciting part of this journey so far has been my recent visit to her state to spend a few days with her, and be present at her 21 week ultrasound visit! Daron was gracious enough to stay home so it could be a real "girls weekend." We shopped, we ate, we talked about the future. I was also lucky enough to be able to spend an evening with the birthfather's family, and really get to know their story. Perhaps the most wonderful realization of this visit: this isn't a story about an unwanted child- this is a child that is wanted by everyone, and loved enough to be let go. That thought humbles me more than you know. So many people could (and want to) step up and keep this child, but Heavenly Father must have known how much WE need him.

His name is going to be Jack, and the middle name is still up for discussion. If you humorously submit to us names like "Rabbit," "Daniels," or "Hammer," you're putting your shower invitation in jeopardy. Consider yourself warned!!

Please keep our family and Kelli in your prayers. She needs love and support, especially in the next couple of months. I already feel guilty for being so happy, when she is going through such a trial. I'm sure extra prayers for her peace and comfort couldn't hurt.

Now the cat's out of the bag, we will keep you posted!

Love to you all,
Elisa

16 comments:

Heather McKeon said...

Hurrah!!! I'm so excited for you guys! And now it's time for me to hit the sewing machine to whip up a little something for Mom & Dad & Baby Jack.

Shelly said...

Love it Love it Love it! Jack is one of my favorite boy names! Can't wait to see you at Christmas to talk more in person about this whole experience. I'm so happy for you and will pray things continue to go well for everyone involved. And March...well, maybe a visit to Raleigh is in our future :) Congrats mama!

Heather said...

Oh how exciting!!!! Prayers being sent your way and Kelli's! I love that you were able to go to the ultrasound and get to know the father's family too. How special!! And what a lucky baby to have so many people to love him!

Sofia L said...

I'm so excited!! I love that we're both having boys and they're only going to be 2-3 weeks apart. I just wish we were still living down the street =( but that's ok b/c they'll still be best friends.

Lisa said...

Whaaa....warn a girl before she reads this at work! I'm bawling at my desk and it's NOT pretty. It's the ugly cry but a good cry. Tears of joy for you and sadness for Kelli. I could just squeeze that girl for making your dreams come true! She's definitely a special gal. Prayers are coming for both of you. I can't wait for March!

sarah r said...

Praying for you and Kelli!

cat said...

Yay!! I am so excited for you guys. I wanted to name our forthcoming booger jack, but the husband vetoed it, it will be his middle name though-I love love love the name jack!!
And I think he is so precious and how awesome to be able to go to the ultrasound. I am keeping you ALL in my prayers!!

Jenny said...

Yeah!!!! You both will be in my prayers! You and Darren will be wonderful parents, you both deserve for this to work out! I love the name Jack too!

Erin said...

I am so thrilled for you that I am speechless! Imagine me, speechless!

What a blessing it is that you've been able to spend time with the birth mother, her family, and the birth father's family. This little one is truly, truly loved!

I am beyond thrilled for you guys!!

Kasey Q said...

I am so excited for you all. You've all been through so much.

I can't wait to see pictures of little Jack! I'll keep you all in my prayers.

Kim and Ken Carlile said...

Come on now, Hammer isn't that bad of a name!!! Congratulations Elisa. A lucky little boy for sure, to be loved by so many and to land with you two!

katie said...

that is so AWESOME!!! Congrats to you both!!

Beckstrand's said...

Congratulations, we are so excited for you guys!

Laura Crenshaw Chabo said...

Halle-freakin-lujah!! I'm so excited for you guys. WONDERFUL to be able to visit with your baby's birth family. I'm sure it's hard for them, but easier having met you! I also recommend Russell for a middle name. We babysat a Jack Russell terrier for a while and he was very sweet and fun. :) (and if you ban me from the shower I will just crash!!! :)) Sooooo, excited for you and love you guys!

Three Little Brown Kids said...

Great news!

Amy M said...

We could burst we're just so happy for you!